Birth trauma minimized

Anybody else feel like birth trauma is minimized in society? I hear of so many stories about women experiencing horrible things during childbirth, yet it is still portrayed as this beautiful experience. I’ve heard of women breaking their pelvis during childbirth, getting fourth degree tears leading to permanent incontinence, developing autoimmune diseases postpartum, etc. I developed C. difficile after my c section , and am still fighting it six months later. While I was at the hospital five pediatricians would come and check on my son, who was doing fine, whereas maybe one OB resident checked on me every other day, even though I had a life threatening infection and was in the hospital for five days. And don’t get me started about the lack of pain management post delivery and the intense pressure to breastfeed. I’m sure plenty of women have lovely birth experiences, but it seems like nobody wants to talk about how traumatic birth can be. How can we change the perception?

I was just harassed on the street

For not wearing a bra. I was pushing my baby in the stroller and a woman started shouting “brassier, brassier!” At me. Then she said “and you have a child, you should be ashamed of yourself”. I was totally shocked and wasn’t sure what just happened so I kept walking. I then saw her a few minutes later on the same street and she shouted “brassier, brassier” and I said “pardon” and she said “what an adorable baby, BRASSIER!” For context, I was not wearing a bra… I was in a black maxi dress and didn’t feel like I was exposing myself… but now I feel very shaken and mortified right now. This woman looked like a normal, unassuming person. Didn’t appear drunk or high. What would compel someone to humiliate another human being this way?

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Can I rant?

My kid takes so long to fall asleep and wakes up in the splitest of seconds… today my kid woke up at 7 (unusual, except on weekends). So we went to the park and played in the hot son until he was exhausted, went to get ice cream, then went home. On the way, I notice he’s tuckered out, so I take the long way, he’s fighting falling asleep for literally 30 mins, i finally give up and start heading home. We get home, he’s passed out. I carry him slowly to his room and the second his head touches the pillow, up and running around. He wasn’t asleep for 10 mins… This kills me, deeply in my core. I’m thinking about hiring a nanny. I like spending time with my kid and we do a lot together, but i need an hour or two in the week where I’m not working and I’m not parenting. How are other single parents doing it?

to parents who don’t have a garage/park a bit away from their home, do you carry baby inside in their car seat or just carry baby in?

husband wants to carry the car seat with baby strapped in each time and i hate carrying the car seat, so i just wanna bring in the baby. what does everyone else do? ALSO at what age did you stop bringing the car seat and just bring the baby in? ours is 3 months. [View Poll](https://www.reddit.com/poll/uuujth)

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how to quiet a crying baby.. supposedly lol! worth a try

While this list of parenting don’ts was initially directed towards me in anger, but it turned out to be therapeutic for both of us. And maybe for you too? #parentingteens @TryHardMommy https://t.co/r51BgJPr9t